(part 1 of 14 of the “Honor Dare“)
Dare: Respond, “Yes, Mom” and “Yes, Dad” all day. No questioning or ignoring.
Verse: Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:2)
At 33 years old, I’ve had more then my fair share of anger, frustration and total annoyance at my parents. Three years ago, however, because of what God did in my life, I’d like to think that my relationship with them has transformed as I’ve become more of the man that God has always desired I be. Although it was my marriage that was near destruction, my parents once again showed the amazing kind of love and sacrifice that you have to stand back and be amazed at – even if you don’t see it in the moment.
When I finally started to “get it” at age 30, it was difficult sometimes to look back and realize how often I’d totally taken my parents for granted… how often I’d set my own desires and wants above theirs – and then expected them to serve me in getting what I wanted! Trust me when I say, it will matter to you one day how you treated your parents and the amazing sacrifice they’ve made for you… even if it’s hard to see right now.
Today, you’re to practice the “first commandment with a promise” – a promise that deals with you directly. The first step to honoring your father and mother is to learn how to submit to them humbly. There is no simpler act of humility then to simply say “Yes, Mom” or “Yes, Dad” and not question or argue. We’re sinners, we’re not wired to submit naturally. But if you don’t learn to do this with your mom and dad, you will NOT learn to do it with the Creator of the Universe. It’s impossible to say “I’m a follower of Christ” and yet not obey the first commandment dealing with your relationship to those around you… specifically mom and dad.
You have nothing to loose – except maybe a little bit of that selfish, me-first greediness that we’ve all grown accustomed to. You do, however, have EVERYTHING to gain if you try it… really. Imagine a home that’s peaceful simply because sons and daughters decided to say “Yes” without first saying “Why do I have to?” What do you have to loose?